DH has been getting a lot of comments lately while taking our son out. Once he went to get his hair cut with both kids and the barber asked when did he get rid the first wife and get an Asian one.
The last one that I really find interesting was when he was in line at Disney California Adventure. I had the DD at another ride and he was at Monsters Inc. A lady in line asked him what ethnic background was his wife. DH answered German/Danish decent and yes he is adopted.
It is somewhat nice they think DS is his bio son but I think it will be hard on him as he gets older. Maybe I am taking this out of context but he can't talk for himself now and I see he reacts to it when DH retell me about these comments.
A Letter for My Mom
1 month ago
2 comments:
To these random strangers, your family is a momentary curiosity. To your son, it's an Important Life Issue. You can't force the random strangers to change their behavior, unfortunately.
Yeah - those comments are - in fact - extremely fun and annoying at the same time! We've had many over the years....and the one thing I wonder about is why folks feel a sense of 'entitlement' to ask these things just because there is an obvious racial difference between parent and child....
For my part - I frequently try to use funny / flippiant answers....like to my favoriate story......
A lovely young lady, new mother holding her first born child, who asked and was told the daughter I was holding was adopted screwed up her courage and after asking permission to ask me a "personal question" (I was guessing something like what medical thing caused us to adopt) when she blurted out "Was the child very expensive?" My response was "Oh no - the child was free....but the shipping and handling was a b%^$&!" I did finally correct her and asked if she was asking about legal fees etc....
Try to keep a sense of humor - and try to find so joy in the fact that if you give them some of what they are asking about - well that may just be the Father asking you to plant a seed...
hugs - aus and co.
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